church singles meetings

Oh boy...
I went to Bible study tonight at a local church. afterwards this lady told me there was a singles meeting down the hall. so, i went, and they were watching a video, and thad food...and there were like 50 old women and 10 old men and one thugged out young man. Now, I kinda don't like singles meetings because people assume that you are "looking." Unfortunately, I cannot "look" or "be looked at" until this bar exam is over.

anywho, the one, thugged out (looking) brotha followed me out of the church when I left. He had been watching me the entire time I was watching the video. (We were probably the youngest individuals in the room) I was slightly ahead of the crowd. (oh boy) Andhe started asking me questions about it being my first time there and such. I just wanted to go home without giving or refusing to give my telephone number. So I walked very fast as we talked and as soon as there was a break in the convo said holla back.

Now, for those that think I'm judgmental, let me correct myself by saying dude may or may not have been some sort of thug type. I was only referring to his physical appearance, that's all. I don't know him from Adam....and thank God for that.

With regard to singleness, I think I'm starting to "feel" "ripe" for some action. I dont' exactly know what action means, but I'm starting to feel like I'm in puberty all over again. I'm noticing, and thinking about people, and things, that I didn't before. I figure it could mean one of two things. 1) My season for a relationship is approaching, and I can stop hiding, or 2) I'm definitely and completely over the ex as well as what he did. I guess it could be a combination of the two. Either way, it's kind of exciting.

diversity

I was happy to see the name Keisha in one of my bar review books. I don't know any non-african-americans named Keisha.

Regardless, the lady, aba president, who gave our graduation speech was bragging about our school's commitment to and reflection of diversity. I'm thinking that the lights were so bright she couldn't see the audience. IN particular, she couldn't see the graduating class. Diversity? At my school? HA People deceive themselves....it's the easy way out I suppose. However, my school just started some diversity chair position or something like that.

Every little bit helps

Jittersnmush

God is good. I know you know that already, but he's really faithful. I'm in a very jittery/mushy mood. Those don't combine well together.

I graduate in 2 days. I don't feel excited, but I do feel blessed. God has blessed me. I had a full ride for undergrad, and a full tuition scholarship for lawschool. My family has gone through hell and back without me since I've been gone, yet none of us have lost our minds, or our faith. Most of my friends, family, associates, roomate, church people, have been more than supportive.

It's been a long, rough, road. It has not been easy. Not necessarily the academic side.....just, life in general. I'm looking forward to the next season.

Regardless, God has been faithful. Today's issue: I gotta find some shoes to match my dress!!

10 signs your date is a keeper...

I thought this was interesting, with no emphasis on physical traits:

1. Is your date kind, respectful and appropriately generous to waiters/waitresses, bus drivers, sales clerks, etc?

2. Has your sweetie confessed to any immoral behavior: Cheating, stealing, lying, inappropriate aggression? If so, how much reflection on this and desire to change has this person shown since then?

3. Does the person you’re dating have any addictions: Drinking, gambling, shopping? Does he or she want to change—and is he or she working to make change happen?

4. Does your honey have a lot of lasting friendships—or hardly any?

5. Does your date always tell stories about bad dynamics he or she experiences with other people? Or does he or she seem to get along easily, even swimmingly, with others?

6. Does your sweetie comment on news stories with a sense of empathy and awareness, or is he or she low on expressing compassion for all that is going on in this world?

7. Have you witnessed your date doing small acts of kindness (leaving a very big tip for no apparent reason, helping someone with his or her shopping bags)?

8. Does this person donate time, money and energy to good causes/charity?

9. Does your honey value self-growth—and show this by being open to hearing your grievances, accepting responsibility for problems when merited, and sharing with you how much he or she values learning lessons in life?

10. Does your sweetie truly value open communication and know how to listen? When you’re upset or need nurturing, does this person deal with the problem at the speed of life... or shut down/stonewall/attack/condescend? Basically a relationship will survive not based on how well you get along, but by how well you don’t get along. A couple is only as “strong” as how well the two individuals can deal with their weakest moments together.